Trauma brings shame, and shame always wants us to hide, to not let anyone know, to keep it a secret, maybe even from ourselves.

But keeping secrets takes so much energy! Like keeping a lot of empty bottles under water. Preoccupying. Exhausting. We might feel like we’re going crazy. . .

Healing comes in exposing the secret, telling our story to others we can trust, even if we’ve kept the secret for a lifetime.