The birth of our daughter prompted a parenting conversation with my White American husband. On his strong encouragement to honor both of our cultures, we decided to raise our daughter in a bicultural, bilingual environment. I was hesitant to raise our daughter bicultural and bilingual, fearing that she might experience something negative by being Japanese in the U.S. The different cultural beliefs my American husband and I hold show up often in our parenting experiences. In my culture, parents are authority figures who are responsible for the child’s future. His culture operates on the idea that parents should relate to their child on the basis of friendship. To further complicate the situation, others took our new situation to be permission to give us their own unsolicited advice, which left me feeling like a suggestion box has been set up for us at our home. Our commitment to negotiation and our flexibility with each other empowered us as a couple, to manage these outside influences amid the complexity of our own two cultures, leading us to settle on our own unique ways of parenting our child.